Saturday, April 30, 2005

Where I Stand: Gay Marriage

Ah, yes, the great non-issue of our time. Gay marriage is nothing more than a wedge issue being used by the Bush administration and the Religious Right to further polarize our country. This is neither an ethical nor a moral issue. Rather, it is an issue of simple civil rights. As a heterosexual married person, my response to the idea of two gay people getting married is that I could not possibly care less.

Being married is both joyous and tough. We all have enough problems just nurturing and supporting our own marriages – as demonstrated by America's 50 percent divorce rate – much less meddling in whether or not two other people who love each other should be allowed to wed.

The Bush administration's efforts to get a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage is one of the most un-American things I have seen come out during Bush's regrettable presidency. It would be the first time that our constitution has been amended to remove a citizen's rights, instead of providing more civil liberties and protection to our people. It is a disgrace that Bush, the Republican party and the Religious Right think otherwise

What are the right wingers afraid of? That gay people would actually be better at being married than straight folks? It would certainly be hard for them to be worse. And, as always, it's the red-state people yelling about this the loudest and, ironically, they live in the states that have the highest divorce rates in the country.

More conservative intolerance. More conservative hypocrisy.

Here's what I say to my Republican friends when they begin discussing how awful gay marriage is: When you sit around your dinner table and talk about the things troubling your family and the issues that keep you awake at night... When you ponder the problems of staying employed, paying your mortgage, keeping your family in health insurance, educating your children and America's place in the world, how often does the notion of two gay people marrying each other come up in that conversation?

They won't know what to say as they realize that it is only bigotry and that, in the deepest sense, it really doesn't matter in their lives.